The 5 Best Lessons of 2018 - Carla Coulson
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The 5 Best Lessons of 2018

carla coulson, positano, italy, photography, loc boyle

Glorious Ones,

As the year comes to a close, I would love to say thank you for being here and sharing this little corner of the planet with me.

How was your year? Did it bring all the things you wished and hoped for or did you learn a valuable lesson?

I had a year like no other. It was a year that took me off my path (or so I thought) for a couple of months but in fact the universe was telling me even though you have learnt a lot of stuff sometimes you need to repeat things to really let the message sink in.

So as 2018 draws to a close, I would love to share with you 5 valuable lessons I re-visited in 2018 that allowed me to grow, dial back into what is important to me, and hopefully there will be something here you can learn from too.


Time is Love

This is at the top of my list because the past 3 years have been big learning years for both hubby and myself. I became a life coach and he finished a course as a naturopath. We have read hundreds of books on health, spirituality and psychology and the greatest lesson for me has been that if you could spell love in another way, you would spell it like this T..I.. M.. E..

Wherever you put your time, you put your love. So make time for those you love, your friends, tribe and family because your time is the greatest demonstration of love you have.


Don’t Take Life Too Seriously

Hands up if you are guilty of this one? You feel like time is ticking and you have sooo much to do. Between racing from one thing to another you feel tired, stressed and sometimes out of sorts. Life feels serious, kids to get to school, meals to cook, bills to pay, stress at work and not enough time to have fun and kick up your heels.

You may be taking life way too seriously! Yes, I had a bit of 2018 that lost its bubble until one day I laughed at myself. I realised I was taking things too seriously. Why are we doing this? That’s not why we are here!!  From that moment on I focused on the joy and fun and bringing it back into my daily life.


You Get What You Focus on

This is a goody for all of us to remember. We can choose to focus on the good stuff or the bad stuff but whichever it is our thoughts become things, so choose wisely.

Being a girl of endless positivity there were a couple of months this year when I focused on the negatives of my personal life instead of the positives and the universe gave me a shock to remind me to live consciously. So if life is giving you lemons check if you have been thinking a little too much about lemons lately and remind yourself to think about what you do want!



One of the greatest gifts you can give yourself and the people around you who love you, is to ask for help. Many of us use doing ‘it all on our own’ as a badge of honour, when in fact by not asking for help when we need it, we are denying those around us the opportunity to show their love and care for us. So be brave and ask for help when you need it and allow yourself to receive this great gift of a helping hand.


Things can be done with ease

So many of us have been brought up to work hard. That the only way to get anywhere is to put in extreme hours and ‘push through’, nose to the grind and bum in the air. 2018 showed me something else, that when you get connected to the spiritual slipstream, the thing the scientists call the quantum field and the woo woo call the universe or source energy and others call God or their god of choice, you can take advantage of synchronicity and other delicious energetic fields to bring home the bacon, love and whatever it is you want in life with more ease.


I hope there was something there for you!! You can leave me a comment in the section below to let me know how your year was and what you learnt. Love to hear.

So my lovelies, I wish you with all my heart a wonderful Christmas and fabulous New Year.

I look forward to sharing 2019 with you, more photography, inspiration and motivation to live the best life you can.

Sending love

Carla x

  • Julian

    You are always so positive and bubbly. Thanks for sharing.

    I agree totally that life is about fun and enjoying what you’re doing. About balance and trying to get that right, in all forms, exercise, eating, drinking, spirituality, and one can go on.

    Know that your blogs are read, just not always commented on.
    Best wishes for 2019.

    December 20, 2018 at 10:10 am
  • Nicole Beaumont

    Sound, sound, advice. The way do delivery this is a treat to r ad and gives a will to improve and focus. Thanks.

    December 20, 2018 at 12:06 pm
  • Cheryl

    Thank you for your thoughts. I am naturally a very optimistic and positive person but don’t believe the terrible year I’ve had this year, including life threatening illness and the sudden death of my soulmate are due to me being negative. Sometimes you just have a bad year!! I can’t wait for this one to end. I’m hoping next year will be better.

    December 20, 2018 at 12:27 pm
  • Sarah Hudson

    Thank you beautiful Carla. As you know I’ve had a bit of a tough time which rattled even my optimistic Leo self. What I learned this year is life is like a river. Sometimes we can see forever with no obstacles in the way; sometimes we hit a rapid and are blindsided for a while; sometimes an unexpected pond of tranquility is just around the corner and sometimes there are little tributaries of choice which require decisions. But …. the river keeps flowing and the scenery is never dull for long. It truly is about the journey and not the destination. Happy to be on the river of life and grateful for all the experiences along the way. Big love to you x

    December 20, 2018 at 4:23 pm
  • Laura Rodriguez

    Thanks for sharing! Your lessons are coming at a perfect time and are exactly what I needed to hear today! A little bit of that “synchronicity and other delicious energetic fields” coming into play… Best wishes to you always!

    December 20, 2018 at 4:55 pm
  • sue-ellen mills

    Thankyou Carla,

    Words of wisdom…………………..I believe all that you have stated to be true. Thankyou for reminding me.

    Looking forward to more of your wonderful inspiring photographs in 2019.

    Love Sue-Ellen x

    December 20, 2018 at 9:17 pm
  • Janette Montague

    Thank you Carla. I needed this. It fits in perfectly to where I have been, where I am and where I need to be.
    Time for me to sit, smell the roses, and look at the clouds. Revive and start a very different journey. Thank you. I only wish I had been your age when I read Italian joy I may have turned my life on a different path then. Love all your books, love your pictures, love your philosophy and always read your posts. Have an amazing Christmas and New Year.

    December 21, 2018 at 12:26 am
  • Kim

    Ha yes this year 2018.
    A good and caring post Carla.
    This year has been the Earth Dog year 🌏🐕 and for some of us you will find on the path a boulder blocking the way, and you are to find a way around it. I Prepared myself this year head down and got on with it……life.
    Boy will I be glad by feb 2019.
    Bring on Earth Pig. Year 🌏🐷
    For my sign, care, comfort, good food, looking after myself…. as you said Carla, we all tend to go at life nose to the grind.

    December 21, 2018 at 12:43 am
  • Heather De Blasio

    I really love this post, Carla. Thank you for the reminders. The idea of time being love particularly resonated. Think I’ve spent too much time on things I don’t love, but what seem to be ‘have to dos’. I’m starting to realise that I actually can make choices – I can choose to spend my time on things/people I love. Indeed, as you point out – that is how to truly show love. I will carry that with me …

    December 21, 2018 at 2:09 am
  • Dear Carla,

    In 2018 I made dolls, wrote craft content, and my craft designs were published in an Australian magazine. I even did a single tog job – and my photos were okay (you can see in my website link).

    I also faced some frightening days, as you will know. Anxiety and fear has had me in a headlock.

    I stopped taking sugar in my coffee. I have better management of my dizzy spells (nerve blockage).

    I cannot promise myself that’ll I’ll be sorted in 2019, but I am attempting to let myself off the hook, at least for a little while.

    And I’m rereading “Italian Joy”.

    Thank you, Carla. The best of wishes to you, always.


    December 21, 2018 at 3:12 am
  • HI Carla
    I always love your posts and have loved your work ever since Italian Joy, I have had similar lessons this year, I have alopecia universalis -( new since april 2018 – total hair loss of the scalp and body). But there have been lots of silver linings if you look for them and it has given me the opportunity to take stock and see what stress and unnecessary things I can eliminate and what to focus on more, what brings me joy, where the clutter is etc. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.

    December 21, 2018 at 3:14 am
  • Carol Tadrosse

    Hi Carla
    You’re a living proof anything can be achieved..
    I remember reading your first book and you wrote how you didn’t want to order take out anymore and their must be more to life than sitting in your unit in Paddington NSW… you bundled your life in your suitcase and you were off on your adventure…. I love reading your books and I have gifted them to a couple of friends because I want them to be reminded anything is possible….

    December 28, 2018 at 11:40 am
  • Caroline Greenwood

    Hi Carla
    Sitting in a beach house in Yallingup, south west of WA, finding a copy of Italian Joy on the shelf, reading it aloud to each other as we relax into 2019 – what’s not to like? Thanks for the book, the evocative photos, and the challenge to us all to find where our passions lie and grab hold. Italy has been calling these past two years so we are heading back in September and considering buying a bolt hole.
    Caroline & Alan

    January 13, 2019 at 2:41 am