Prepare to Change Your Life – 3 Steps

My Amalfi Coast Copyright Carla Coulson


I hope you all had a great weekend full of relaxing moments, friendship and happiness.

My inbox continues to fill with letters about how to change your life so I felt in the mood today to write about some positive steps you can take towards changing your life even if you don’t know what it is you want in life.

Years ago when I lived in Sydney and my life was becoming smaller and smaller and I was becoming unhappier and unhappier there were a couple of things I knew.  I knew I was in the wrong career and this was holding me back from finding ‘my tribe’  and man was I sick of being single!

At the time  I didn’t know how to get out of my career and into a new one but I started my own search long before I finally left my life.

Here are some of the things I did which helped me a whole lot later down the track.

1. Decluttered.. I had always been a maximalist, I loved my things around me. There came a day when I looked at all my things and thought ‘how can I get out of here with you guys weighing me down’? I started to cull, I cleaned out all my cupboards as though I was ready to leave the next day and somehow it lightened my load and gave me clarity.

2. Budget… I made a budget. I realized although I earned a decent amount of money I was wasting it on buying things that made me feel good for a short amount of time. I had an empty bank account and cupboards full of clutter. I started to reverse this with a strict budget, I wrote down everything thing I spent and saw that I wasted so much money on nothing.

3. Explore.. I started exploring different courses and work options. I knew in my heart that it was my job that was blocking me from the life I wanted to live. Although I worked with a small group of marvellous people in the 13 years I had my business I hadn’t made one friend with my clients. I was in the wrong world. I thought maybe I needed to move to the country, work in another business or do something creative. I started to try all of these..Before I arrived in Italy and photography I had worked in the outback for a month (loved it but couldn’t see a life for me there), worked for a sports marketing company working on the Olympics (after the Outback i didn’t like being back in the city in a routine) and started an Italian course..

Change needs time and if you approach change as though it’s all about the journey not the destination everything you discover along the way will be a piece to your puzzle.

All is possible


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Louise Fletcher

Love it Carla! I don’t want to change my life, but this is a great reminder of how to get some clarity back!

Beverly Genevish
Beverly Genevish

Decluttered – CHECK!

Budgeting – CHECK!

Working on #3!!

I’m starting to think we were separated at birth! I discovered you thru your photography (one of my two passions). The more I’ve learned thru your writing the more I realized I am on the same path as you…just several hundred yards behind! Thanks for being such an inspiration. Keep blazing the trail!


Thanks for sharing this Carla. It’s wonderful advice. Jx

Meredith Mancini
Meredith Mancini

Your story is an inspiring one Carla and you have inspired more people than you know about. Good on you !


Decluttering is the quickest way to instigate change. I do it often.

Great post!


That’s exactly what I am doing :o))
I will not join a language course because I would love going to UK and I feel pretty confident but I am already exploring and made the steps for the recognition of my degrees.
About being single …. I have been single for the last 5 months after 20 years and I love it.
It was also a good occasion for a major decluttering.
Thank you again for sharing your experience, Rosanna


Words of wisdom! very inspiring….


I had to declutter last year so I could downsize. It’s a constant job though. Funny, I thought you were born with a camera in your hand.
Wonderful advice,

peggy braswell

Great thoughts!


Thankyou Carla I am on that mission this very moment and your advice has just made it even clearer for me x thanks so much x Kate

Christopher Frost

Gail and I need to declutter and put a load of things on Ebay. Partly to pay for our splurge on new cameras. But we just don’t know where to start, or have the motivation to start.

I know we do spend too much time on the computer, either looking at photos, downloading photos or wasting time on Facebook.

We too need to spread our wings and fly.


So many great ideas for simplifying your life even if you are not searching for change.

lisa clifford

And all the time you were garnering your courage, I’ll bet. Such courage! Great tips Carla!

lisa chiodo | renovating italy

Moving house every year keeps us ‘Decluttered’ and I especially love the advice to keep learning, and exploring new options. Keep a childlike enthusiasm for adventure….see you soon.
ciao lisa x

Francesca Muir

Love this advice – especially the declutter, as that’s what I am about to do again in my life – it’s SO liberating and I can’t wait! Also love the advice about exploring – apart from opening doors, I think it’s what keeps us young! Great inspiration and LOVE the photo. Waiting for another book please? Fx

Josephine Nyga
Josephine Nyga

Facebook: Vintage Venus Fashion, Art, Collectables and More! Brisbane, Qld. Aust. I just want to thank you, grazie mille Bella Carla soooo very much for your inspiration! You saved my life, literally!!!!! I had been married for 30 years, married at 20, doing the corporate thing, following someone else’s, including parents, societies expectations, conditioning and indoctrination. Having my daugher Holly Jade in 2001 at 42 was a miracle and she continues to be my joy and inspiration! Your book literally, changed my life, I left my husband in 2008, opened a Vintage Shop, ran motivational workshops for women, telling one… Read more »


Well edited list!! I am really suffering from #1. It wasn’t always this way, but the last few years have been dreadful. I notice I am most productive, and most creative, when I have the fewest things weighing me down….and that includes the extra pounds on my body, as well as the clutter in my space!! This is my year for change and I am thrilled it is finally in the works. By this time next year, I am back in NY! PS, I was just in your home city shooting on Tuesday. One more day free, sand I would… Read more »


i needed to read this! thanks for your clarity xx


Awsum Carla!!! Keep it up..

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