It seems many people close to me are in a state of confusion and want to change their lives and I am often asked about the process of change and ‘how I changed my life’.
So folks if you are sitting out their in your lounge-room dying to change your life you might enjoy my thoughts?
I decided to ponder this question and reflect on many steps and ‘actions’ that were part of my journey to truly changing my life.
When I was dissatisfied with my life I felt as though I had locked myself in a room with no doors.
I knew I was unhappy but I could’t see the way out until I had an epiphany (delivered in the form of a present as the best client of 1999 at my local Thai Takeaway) and then my brain cleared, the clouds were swept away and all of a sudden doors opened.
I had moved town 4 times by the time I was sixteen and lived in 18 different addresses in Sydney before I eventually moved to Italy. Every weekend of my childhood my parents took our family ‘somewhere new’. I was put on a plane when I was 4 with my big sister who was 5 and off we flew to our grandparents almost 1000kms away. Our parents each year took us on a holiday to a new corner of our world whether we loaded up the Valiant or we slept on a bus for the best part of 48 hours to reach the top of Australia.
Excitement, newness and adventure I discovered looking back on my journey (and comparing my life to others) is part of my DNA imprinting.
So when the day came to go off and find a life I had dreamed of I was kind of pragmatic about it and I think this ‘action’ is an important key to true change.
You can talk about change to you are black and ‘pink’ in the face but true change comes when you pick up a piece of paper and start a plan, take the first step towards something you want but never dared to do, move out of your comfort zone and get uncomfortable (nobody ever said change was cosy) or do something you have never done before.
Change is easier for some and harder for others but this doesn’t mean that all of us can’t make change happen.
So here is a little advice.. Take one step today towards something you have always but only ever thought about, comtemplated or dreamed of doing. Even if that is grabbing an excel file and working out your finances, going to meet someone you have always wanted to, write an email that you have been putting off forever and start putting change into practice.
Change is a million little steps and until you can take the first one change will just be another word in the dictionary.
True change requires action.
Sending you all my best wishes from Paris.
“Change does not roll in on the wheels of inevitability, but comes through continuous struggle. And so we must straighten our backs and work for our freedom. A man can’t ride you unless your back is bent.” Martin Luther King